I do not now recall how we got on this subject all those years ago, but mother shared this advice early one morning, while we were driving home from one of my gigs. She confided, “In order to be interesting you must first be interested in others”. I chewed this over for a few days and decided to give it a try. I began applying her theory and saw that it produced results and gave me a relaxed entrance into conversations. I found that it was a win-win formula for any person to try.
Should you find you want to truly connect at the next meeting, dinner party, convention, or the grocery store, it’s time to build those people skills. The simplest way to do this is to figure out what they’re interested in, by asking leading questions. Ask ones that require more than a yes or no response. Word…
A few weeks ago I went to see the movie Les Miserables, young Cosette the little girl who dreams of a better life sings a song “Castle On A Cloud”
There is a castle on a cloud,
I like to go there in my sleep,
Aren’t any floors for me to sweep,
Not in my castle on a cloud.
There is a room that’s full of toys,
There are a hundred boys and girls,
Nobody shouts or talks too loud,
Not in my castle on a cloud.
There is a lady all in white,
Holds me and sings a lullaby,
She’s nice to see and she’s soft to touch,
She says “Cosette, I love you very much.”
I know a place where no one’s lost,
I know a place where no one cries,
Crying at all is not allowed,
Not in my castle on a cloud.
I later thought how most of us as a child must have at one time or another dreamed about living in a castle or playing in one or even getting married in one.
I personally dreamed about playing inside one usually finding some unknown secret passageway no one ever knew existed. Yet, it was I who had found it and it of course lead to an under ground tunnel, to an unknown entrance that opened up to an entire new world of wonders.
What kind of wonders you might ask?
For some reason in my dreams there was always a grand white stallion horse with wings I could ride and fly with. A few unicorns and a few huge very loving Snow Leopards that could communicate with me.
Today there are wonderful Castles all over the world and even today if I could, I would love to go and play in each and every one of them and explore each and every crack and turn any stone and brick to see if there are any secret passageways that would lead me to new and exciting adventure. It would be fun indeed.
Castles I’d love to explore today.
1. On the South Coast of Cornwall (St. Michael’s Mount) in England.
That’s St. Michaels as in the great heavenly Archangel worrier.
He was known for strength and victory over dragons is an expression of the struggle of the newly-arrived Christian faith against native paganism in this area.
Take a closer look and tell me why there couldn’t be any secret passageways here?
There simply has to be!
2. The Edinburgh Castle
Most of these buildings date back to the 16th century. St Margaret’s Chapel is the oldest and dates back to the 12th century.
Now tell me if there wouldn’t be any hidden room at this place?
3. The Spis Castle, and one of the biggest in Central Europe.
Also dates back to the 12th century but the area was inhabited at least 7000 years.
If this place looks a bit familiar it’s because it was used as a location for films, such as Dragonheart (1996), Phoenix, Kull the Conqueror (1997), The Lion in Winter (2003), The Last Legion (2006).
4. The Alcázar of Segovia (literally, Segovia Castle) is a stone fortification,
located in the old city of Segovia, Spain. Rising out on a rocky crag above the confluence of the rivers Eresma and Clamores near the Guadarrama mountains, it is one of the most distinctive castle-palaces in Spain by virtue of its shape – like the bow of a ship.
The Alcázar was originally built as a fortress but has served as a royal palace, a state prison, a Royal Artillery College and a military academy since then.
5. The Bodiam Castle a 14th-century near Robertsbridge in England.
It was built in 1385 by Sir Edward Dalyngrigge, a former knight of Edward III, with the permission of Richard II, ostensibly to defend the area against French invasion during the Hundred Years’ War. AMAZING>>>>>no?
Standing at a colossal 35 feet, the towers of Bodiam Castle, provide a 360 degree view of the surrounding grounds, allowing for superior optical advantages.
6. Lets not forget The Magic Castle of Sleeping Beauty
These are just a few but a good start to begin an adventure.
How can something so plain and simple be so misunderstood? She said I didn’t care? What the hell was she thinking? Again he took her side? Why are my words being made to seem so dehumanize? In fact I swear I didn’t say much at all? Yet was over-ruled to seem nasty, offensive and cruel? Got lectured on how she’s had it so rough? I’m so tough?
Get real you fool! She’s got you wrapped underneath her pitiful stool. She’ll step on you as soon as she’s in need of getting high. Why? Oh why? Do you choose to wear those scales on your eyes? Lies I tell you lies and I am tired of feeling wicked in your eyes. She better get smart she better wise up. She thinking there’s trouble? She’s got no clue!
IT’S A TERRIBLE INJUSTICE when you love someone so much! Don’t let it happen to you. Love and giving only breaks you in two. Kisses and slaps you at the same time. Be dehumanizing and look like a fool, its better then being accused of what’s not true.!!!
So lately I’ve been thinking about King Solomon quite a bit. As He was the wisest man who ever lived on the face of the earth as G_d Himself gave him the gift of wisdom.
Probably because I find myself troubled lately as my daughter whom I love more than life seems to suddenly not give two cents about anything I have to say. Granted she is 24 years of age and yes I understand she’s an adult.
I’d even go so far as to say she doesn’t have to take any of my advice at this age. However what has me troubled is that she doesn’t even care to hear what I say because she claims she already knows what I am going to say before I say it. Which I doubt. – Might come close to it but even so, she hushes me up with her actions before I even speak a word.
Then later sends me a text saying she didn’t mean to be rude to me, it’s just that my words hurt her feelings so she rather not listen to them.
Troubled and looking for some kind of guidance my thoughts therefore are those towards King Solomon since he was granted a heart of understanding and has many words of wisdom that included wealth, and power.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with the story; Solomon was the son of King David, of Israel. Solomon was appointed King right before his father died when he was only 12 years old. Shortly after that, God appeared to him in a dream as the boy was troubled thinking he couldn’t live up to his father’s greatness.
In his dream God tells the boy he will grant him a wish and he could ask for anything he wants.
To which Solomon say’s: “I am but a small child … Give therefore your servant an understanding heart to judge your people.
His request pleases God so much that he tells him,”Because you have not requested riches and honor but only that which would benefit all the people, I will give you not only an
understanding heart like none other before or after you … but also
riches and honor like no other king in your days.” (1 Kings 3:7-13)
And He did, he became the wisest of all men, not just Torah “wisdom” but secular knowledge of science and more.
Solomon also built the Temple in Jerusalem and reigned over Israel’s golden age.
THEN the idea came to me.
If she won’t listen to anything I have to say and is big on texting, then what I am going to do is text her one of King Solomon’s Proverbs each day.
And so the texting begins, one Proverb daily at a time…
The way of fools seems right to them,
but the wise listen to advice.
Fools show their annoyance at once,
but the prudent overlook an insult.
The wise in heart accept commands,
but a chattering fool comes to ruin.
Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life,
but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.
Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.
Why do some people get high on making others look bad?
If that wasn’t enough, some even continue to go on and on about the same old thing when in fact its pretty obvious these x-groupies have nothing better to do then to troll around in hopes of making themselves the center of attention.
OK?….I’ll give them that.
I guess some people just really need to do that?
Or maybe its sheer ignorance; like when someone makes fun of someone with a disability? The drama must make them feel strong?
At first I was annoyed because I happen to know the facts of this particular event and their so call wanta-be story of theirs. But, I found myself becoming amused with the fabrications of their facts as they did indeed get juicier and juicier. So my thoughts were “oh, who cares, let them have their fun”.
However, months later I have to write:
Oh please, underwriter, it’s become your disease.
I know of a groupie that’s displeased. You’ve become a tease with no guarantee.
Proceeding with gossip and rumors foresees ill will a skill that kills only you.
In fact I’m melancholy you have too much folly.
Literati you’re not.
Poor little Crystal Sharp, fury can’t be much fun being known as a writer scorned overly done.
Poor little Crystal Sharp unskillful and cripple belittles and believes its beneficial and fun.
Rejected, feels dejected, I’m sorry that isn’t fun.
Writing things that are ulterior to you makes you seem anything but superior, its desperate and dumb.
Yes I confess I too was amused with your writing skewed.
Watching swing-dig-in of rhythms of rambling canning messy at first was fun.
But I took a polled, now stale and old.
What was once fun now overrun.
Even your animals aren’t having fun.
Silencing can be enlightening; you’re reporting it’s become disquieting.
Sometimes you can’t help looking stupid and dumb.
One may have been a fool, but there’s nothing more foolish then continually being angry and bitter, GET OVER IT ALREADY!
Something really cute happened in our own downtown area here in San Antonio, Texas where I live this last week.
It also happens at the same office bank were I bank. Since it was so close to home I wanted to share it with anyone who happens to come across my blog.
An accountant clerk by the name of Michael who works at Frost Bank noticed several weeks ago there was a mother duck outside his window. Day after day he watched a mother duck choose the concrete awning outside his window as the unlikely place to build a nest above the sidewalk. The mallard laid ten eggs in a nest in the corner of the planter that is perched over 10 feet in the air. She dutifully kept the eggs warm for weeks, and last Monday afternoon all of her ten ducklings hatched.
Michael worried all night how the momma duck was going to get those babies safely off their perch in a busy, downtown, urban environment to take to water, which typically happens in the first 48 hours of a duck hatching. Tuesday morning, Michael watched the mother duck encourage her babies to the edge of the perch with the intent to show them how to jump off. Office work came to a standstill as everyone gathered to watch.
The mother flew down below and started quacking to her babies above. In disbelief Michael watched as the first fuzzy newborn trustingly toddled to the edge and astonishingly leapt into thin air, crashing onto the cement below. Michael couldn’t stand to watch this risky effort nine more times! He dashed out of his office and ran down the stairs to the sidewalk where the first obedient duckling, near its mother, was resting in a stupor after the near-fatal fall. Michael stood out of sight under the awning-planter, ready to help.
As the second one took the plunge, Michael jumped forward and caught it with his bare hands before it hit the concrete.. Safe and sound, he set it down it by its momma and the other stunned sibling, still recovering from that painful leap. (The momma must have sensed that Michael was trying to help her babies.)
One by one the babies continued to jump.. Each time Michael hid under the awning just to reach out in the nick of time as the duckling made its free fall. At the scene the busy downtown sidewalk traffic came to a standstill. Time after time, Michael was able to catch the remaining eight and set them by their approving mother.
At this point Michael realized the duck family had only made part of its dangerous journey. They had two full blocks to walk across traffic, crosswalks, curbs and past pedestrians to get to the closest open water, the San Antonio River , site of the famed “River Walk.” The onlooking office secretaries and several San Antonio police officers joined in. An empty copy-paper box was brought to collect the babies. They carefully corralled them, with the mother’s approval, and loaded them in the container.. Michael held the box low enough for the mom to see her
brood. He then slowly navigated through the downtown streets toward the San Antonio River . The mother waddled behind and kept her babies in sight, all the way.
As they reached the river, the mother took over and passed him, jumping in the river and quacking loudly. At the water’s edge, Michael tipped the box and helped shepherd the babies toward the water and to the waiting mother after their adventurous ride.
All ten darling ducklings safely made it into the water and paddled up snugly to momma. Michael said the mom swam in circles, looking back toward the beaming bank bookkeeper, and proudly quacking.
At last, all present and accounted for:
“We’re all together again. We’re here! We’re here!”
And here’s a family portrait before they head outward to further adventures….
Like all of us in the big times of our life, they never could have made it alone without lots of helping hands. I think it gives the name of San Antonio ‘s famous “River Walk” a whole new meaning!
Live honestly, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly & Leave the rest to God.